Favourite dating apps: what works for him vs. her (Breakdown of dating app experience)
Dating apps– the digital cupid's playground where swipes, likes, and questionable bios rule the roost. Whether searching for "The One",
Dating apps– the digital cupid's playground where swipes, likes, and questionable bios rule the roost. Whether searching for "The One", a one-night fling, or just someone who won't ghost you after three messages, these apps have become the go-to place to find (or lose) love.
But let's face it: dating apps work differently for everyone, especially for him vs her. And no, it's not just about algorithms; it's about how we use them.
The setup: a tale of two profiles
For her:
Her dating app profile is a masterpiece of strategic artistry. She's uploaded three flawless photos: one candid (but posed), one with her dog (to weed out the pet haters), and one group pic where she's the standout.
Her bio? A mix of wit ("Fluent in sarcasm, dog mom, and mildly obsessed with sushi"). She's also meticulously chosen her dating app prompts, ensuring they're fun yet revealing: "My love language is tacos" and "I'll fall for you if you send me book recommendations."
For him:
Now let's talk about him: His profile is... Minimalistic. A blurry gym selfie? Check. A group photo where you have no idea which one he is? Check.
And the cherry on top? A bio that reads either "Just ask" or "looking for a partner in crime." Oh, and let's not forget the obligatory fish photo. Because nothing screams " romantic potential" like holding a dead trout, right?
The swipe game: Swipe Right on reality
For her:
Swiping is an art form. She's scanning for red flags faster than a lifeguard during spring break. Gym bro, who says, "I live for the grind"? Left. Guys posing with tigers in Thailand? Left. Someone who looks remotely decent but lists their height in their bio ("6'3" because apparently, that matters")? Hmm.
For him:
It's a number game for him. Swipe right, swipe right, swipe right– oh look, another right! His philosophy? Cast a wide net and hope for a catch. He'll worry about compatibility after the match.
The match: It's a different vibe
For her:
When she gets a match, she's cautious. Does he open "Hey" or "Hey gorgeous"? Yawn. Maybe he'll get a chance if he starts with something clever, like referencing her love for tacos.
But god helps him if his opener is, "What are you looking for here?" She didn't come here to define her intentions to every Tom and Harry!
For him:
Every match feels like winning the lottery. But the excitement quickly fades when his match doesn't respond to his generic "Hey" messages.
Maybe he'll get creative and send a meme, or worse, a GIF of a waving bear. Nothing says "I'm worth your time" like animated wildlife.
"In the vast digital sea, we search not for perfection, but for someone who feels like home."
The real MVPs of dating apps
For her:
Apps like Bumble are a godsend. Why? Because she gets to make the first move, and there's less chance of dealing with a creepy opener. She's also partial to Hinge because "Designed to be deleted" sounds like a challenge she's ready to accept.
Plus, those prompts? Pure gold for weeding out the weirdos.
For him:
Tinder remains the OG. It's straightforward, has no frills and is full of possibilities (or so he tells himself). Bumble feels a bit intimidated since he has to wait for her to message first. And Hinge? Sure, he likes it, but coming up with witty answers to prompts? That's a lot of pressure for a guy who thinks "Netflix and chill" is a personality trait.
The date: Expectations vs Reality
For her:
When she agrees to meet, It's after extensive vetting. She's stalked his Instagram, googled his LinkedIn, and maybe even asked a friend to do a background check. She's got hip hops, but also an exit plan. Just in case.
For him:
The date feels like a victory lap. He hasn't done much vetting beyond checking if she's real and can hold a conversation. Expectations? Minimal. Reality? Hopefully, she shows up and isn't a catfish.
"Digital dating shows us that even in a world of pixels, the heart seeks authenticity."
The aftermath: who's ghosting who?
For her:
Post-date, she's analyzing every detail with her friends. Did he pay? Was he polite to the waiter? Did he mention his ex too many times? If he ticks most of the boxes, there's potential. But if he's clingy or sends a "So, when can I see you again?" text before she even gets home? Red flag.
For him:
For him, the aftermath of the encounter is quite straightforward. If everything went well, he’ll casually claim, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.” This phrase has become his classic get-out-of-jail-free card, allowing him to maintain a sense of freedom without facing any emotional commitments.
Here’s the kicker: dating apps work, but only if you work them. For her, it’s about sifting through the nonsense to find someone worth her time. For him, it’s about putting in a little effort and maybe ditching the fish photos. Try Idyll, the dating app "because life’s too short for bad pick-up lines and even worse profile photos"
Riya Verma