Valentine’s Day Surprises Based on Their Love Language <3
Love is in the air–or maybe that's the overwhelming scent of overpriced roses and desperation.
Love is in the air–
or maybe that's the overwhelming scent of overpriced roses and desperation. Valentine's Day is back, and whether you're excited or just trying to survive it, one thing's for sure: your partner expects something thoughtful. If you're still thinking that a gas station bouquet and a last-minute card will do the trick, let's talk seriously.
For the uninitiated, love language is the five ways people supposedly like to receive affection: Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, and physical touch. And before you roll your eyes and say, "Why can't they just be happy with whatever I give them?"
Let's dive into how you can impress your partner based on their very specific emotional preferences.
Words of affirmation:
Because compliments are free!
If your partner's love language is words of affirmation, congratulations! You don't even have to leave your couch–just open your mouth and say nice things. Easy right? Wrong. Because apparently, "You're hot" doesn't qualify as a deep emotional connection.
No, not a text that says "love u bb"–a real, tangible letter on fancy paper that looks like you put in some effort. Bonus points if you read it out loud like a port at a coffeehouse. If you want to go full-on extra, create a voice recording of sweet nothing so they can listen to your verbal devotion on repeat.
Acts of service: Because apparently, taking out the trash is romantic
If your partner's love language is an act of service, your grand romantic gestures mean nothing if you can't remember to do the dishes. For them, love is less about fancy words and more about "Did you help me today?"
Breakfast in bed? Done. Car washed?? Already sparkling. That annoying task they keep complaining about? Finished before they even asked. Become the most useful human being on the face of the earth.
Receiving a gift:
It's not about the price tag.
This love language often gets unfairly judged as "materialistic," but let's be honest–who doesn't love presents? The key here is thoughtful gifts, not just a last-minute teddy bear that looks like it's seen things.
Like a book they mentioned six months ago, a custom playlist on vinyl, or jewelry with an inside joke engraved. Subscription boxes also work because it's the gift that keeps on giving–just like their high expectations.
Quality time: put your phone down for five minutes
For these folks, undivided attention is the golden ticket to their heart. It's not just about being near them–it's about actually engaging and making eye contact.
Maybe it's a picnic in the park, a cozy bookstore date, or an entire Netflix marathon where you watch the movie instead of scrolling reels. Want extra brownie points? Plan a weekend getaway.
Physical touch: Yes, you have to be affectionate
If your partner's love language is physical touch, then congratulations–you are now a human teddy bear. They want hugs kisses, and, yes, cuddles, so brace yourself for close contact.
Plan something with their favorite movies and a ridiculous number of blankets. If you're feeling fancy, a couple's massage will work wonders.
So, are you doomed?
If all of this feels exhausting, well...welcome to a relationship! But before you panic-Google "Valentine's Day ideas for people who don't know what they're doing," just remember: Love language isn't about grand gestures. They're about making your person feel seen, understood, and appreciated in their own way–not just yours.
Anushka Gusain
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