Know This About Love Before Committing
"Love is blind," they say. But honestly, it's not just blind—it's also a little deaf, occasionally mute, and frequently prone to selective amnesia. Oh, how we wish someone had handed us the "love survival guide"
"Love is blind"
they say. But honestly, it's not just blind—it's also a little deaf, occasionally mute, and frequently prone to selective amnesia. Oh, how we wish someone had handed us the "love survival guide" before we dived headfirst into the whirlpool of romance and were woefully unprepared.
And no, it's not all flowers, chocolates, or that montage music from romantic comedies. Spoiler alert: it's more like forgetting whose turn to take out the trash while debating whether pineapple belongs on pizza. (it doesn't, but we'll save that argument for another time.)
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The infatuation stage is nature's scam.
Remember that rush of adrenaline when you see them after a long day at work or when they text you "Good morning"? The butterflies? The can't stop syndrome? Yeah, that's not love; that's your brain high on dopamine.
It's nature's way of luring you into a commitment before you realize that they snore like a freight train or leave a wet towel on the bed. If only someone had warned us that love in its early days was just a highly addictive drug. Just don't mistake it for the real thing– that's like thinking the trailer is better than the movie.
Romantic gestures won't save you from chores.
Oh, how we imagined love to be all about candlelit dinners, surprise weekend getaways, and heartfelt handwritten notes.
Here's the cold truth: grand romantic gestures are great for Instagram stories, but they don't replace the day-to-day grind. Love is found in the mundane– like when they make you tea after a long day or agree to watch your favourite trashy reality show.
"Love doesn't always have to be grand gestures; it thrives in the small, unremarkable moments of everyday life."
Communication is more of "hard conversations".
"We communicate so well", you think, as you spend hours talking about your favourite movies and dreams for the future. But hold on to your popcorn because real communication starts when you have to discuss finances, in-laws, or who gets the last slice of pizza.
No one tells you that love requires mastering the art of arguing. And let's be clear: the trick is to argue with the goal of resolution, not to win. Because trust me, even if you "win" the fight, you're probably sleeping on the couch.
Boundaries are essential, not optional.
Ah, boundaries. The word that's essential to love is seasoning to food. But nobody mentions this when you're swept up in the honeymoon phase, sharing every thought and moment like you're starring in a Hallmark movie.
Love doesn't mean becoming each other's shadows. It's about respecting each other's individuality. Set those boundaries early, whether it's about alone time, hobbies, or how much input their mom gets in your life. Boundaries aren't just healthy; they are lifesaving.
Love won't fix you
Remember that time you thought love would heal all your insecurities and magically complete you? Yeah, how's that working out? Love isn't a therapy session or a fairy godmother.
If you are not whole on your own, love won't fill the gaps. It'll just highlight them. So, do yourself a favour: Work on yourself before you dive into commitment. Because love isn't about two halves becoming whole– it's about two wholes coming together to build something even greater.
Love is a verb, not just a feeling.
When we think about love, we think about feelings– the rush of joy, the sense of connection, the warmth of affection. But here's what nobody tells you: love is more about actions than feelings.
It's about showing up, even when you're tired. It's choosing kindness in the heat of an argument. It's the dishes without being asked (seriously, that's peak romance). Love is what you do, not just what you feel.
"Love is not just a feeling; it’s a verb. It requires action, intention, and consistent effort."
Love requires constant maintenance.
Think of love like a car. If you don't take care of it, it'll break down.
Regular maintenance is non-negotiable, whether it's date night, honest conversations, or simply saying "I love you" out loud.
So, what do we wish we knew about love before committing? That it’s messy, complicated, and often frustrating. But why learn the hard way when Idyll, the dating app, is here to save you from love’s delightful chaos? We connect you with people who actually get you, minus the drama.
Sheetal