Should You Date Her?

Are you also a great admirer of the Friends to Lovers trope? If yes, then read this blog till the end to get a realistic view of your favorite trope!
I know Bollywood has always fantasized about the concept of 'friends to lovers' and I can bet this has surely popped a lot of emotions in your heart!

You must've also felt that falling in love with your friend is the best feeling in this whole world! But wait wait, give a pause to your emotions and start seeing this trope through a practical lens.

Is It True Love Or Just A Crush?

When you have a friend who is really close to you and you both love spending time with each other. Then a lot of times, either of the two tends to develop some feelings considering the proximity they cherish.

You might start developing strong emotions for the person and start believing that now your friend is not just a friend to you. It can be absolutely true as well. As friendships grow into concrete lovable relationships a lot of times. But, when you feel like you're perplexed with your emotions you should never jump to a conclusion abruptly. Rather, you should practically review your friendship and seek answers. This will make you simply realize whether you're genuinely in love with your friend or is it just a superficial crush that is just for a temporary period of time.
If it's just a crush then surely it won't affect your friendship and you’ll get over it in no time. But, if it's love then you’ve to be prepared for some emotional turmoil.

Two Sides Of The Same Coin!

There's always a duality of emotions which means that there are always two sides of the same coin. This is indeed the same scenario in the friends-to-lovers trope. If you’ve fallen in love with your closest friend it will either ruin or enhance your relationships. There is a fair possibility of both these situations to occur. As, if you love your friend but those feelings aren't reciprocated from the other side then it will surely hurt you. There is also a potential that you’ll feel detached from your closest friend and it might cause a gap between the two of you. In such a case, friends to lovers ideology doesn't work out much. But, this doesn't mean at all that you shouldn't confess your feelings thinking about your future consequences. As this will harm your mental and emotional health. Also, this will make the friendship more and more toxic as you’ll keep on building expectations in your heart that won't get fulfilled.

So, it's better to confess your emotions and make an effort to live your friends to lovers' dreams.

Because even if your feelings aren't reciprocated it will hurt you to the core. But at the same time, the confession will act as a reality check for you. It will open your eyes and bring you out of your assumptions and false hopes. In some of the cases, if your friend is an understanding one they will give you space and time to move on and will wait for things to settle down and get normal between the two of you.

But, on the other hand, the same confession can also change your whole world and make it a more beautiful one. This confession can also make you live your friends-to-lovers life you are yearning for!

As I said before there's a dual perspective of every scenario. So, before confessing you should hope for the best and prepare for the worst. You shall think optimistically. In a lot of cases, friends reciprocate each other's emotions and then another version of your friendship grows as now they have officially become lovers from friends. Also, it's psychologically proven that when a relationship starts from friendship it lasts longer. There's a sense of security within it you can comfortably share your fears as well as your problems with your partner. The new relationship will also make your initial friendship much stronger. As you both will be friends before lovers. And lovers can fight, have ego issues, they can even end their relationship. But, friends always share a special bond, a relationship can end but the friendship is unbreakable.

So, just be fearless and take some time to know your emotions. Once, you are sure that it's love. You should go and confess your feelings to your friend without overthinking and weaving a fantasy in your mind. What if you're destined to have a friends-to-lover relationship?

How To Cope With Rejection?

Coping with Rejection can be a lot to handle. A lot of people will give you plenty of advice on the significance of love, falling in love, the right one to choose, and so on. But, hardly anyone will tell you how to cope with rejection especially when it's from your closest friend.

But don't worry, just keep a few things in mind. If you're rejected by your friend it's indeed one of the most chaotic and painful situations one can ever come across. You might feel that your self-esteem has been destroyed. There must be a void deep inside your heart. But, the most important thing is to feel the pain. Rather than going for forced optimism you shall take out time and feel the pain. If you want to cry, cry wholeheartedly. Cry your heart out. But, it's okay. There's no fixed tenure to move on so take your time. If possible, maintain a temporary, respectful distance from your friend because it's difficult to move on from someone who is in constant touch with you. Heal yourself, spend time alone or with friends, do the activities you love, and start getting the hold of your life back. Start living your life without that painful feeling. This will surely help you heal and move on from the pangs of pain in no time!

Stories I encountered:

There is a girl named Ruby. She has always been a really successful personality in her corporate world. But, in spite of her fantastic corporate experience. She was lonely because she never got love from her father. And even her fiance broke their marriage on a very toxic note. She had given up fully on love when fortunately she met an old male friend of hers- Akshay. She felt attached to him and within no time they made a strong bond with each other. She prayed to God for this bond to flourish more and more. And they blessedly ended up falling in love with each other. Their love story started when they became lovers from friends. And now Ruby and Akshay are happily married couples instead of their contrasting castes. They were also blessed with a lovely baby boy recently.

Such stories are always motivating and they inspire people to believe more and more in such a friends-to-lovers concept!

Movies, Series, And Books Which Are Classic Examples Of Friends To Lovers Tropes:

Kuch Kuch Hota Hai:-

Anjali and Rahul reside in everyone's hearts. They both are always termed as the best examples of friends-to-lovers. However, the movie is prone to a lot of controversies. And, the most important lesson which we can learn from the movie is that confession is really important, and unless and until you confess your feelings it will keep on giving you emotional trauma.

Love, Rosie

Love, Rosie portrays Lily Collins and Sam Claflin in the lead roles. The movie revolves around the story of two childhood best friends who eventually fall in love with each other. But, aren't able to confess their emotions to each other because whenever they are going to do something or the other pull apart from each other. This Hollywood movie is a classic example of best friends ending up being lovers.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

We’re talking about Friends to Lovers then there's no way we can forget our one and only Mondler. Monica and Chandler. Their contrasting personalities, unexpected friendship and forever growing love which transcends all the obstacles are worth the discussion. This heartwarming series will always remain close to the hearts of its audience.

You, Again By Kate Goldbeck:-

When Ari and Josh first meet, the wrong kind of sparks fly. They hate each other. Ari and Josh never expect their paths to cross again. But years later, as they’re both reeling from ego-bruising breakups, a chance encounter leads to a surprising connection: friendship. Turns out, spending time with your former nemesis is fun when you’re too sad to hate each other. As friends without benefits, they find comfort in late-night Netflix binges, swiping through each other’s online dating profiles, and bickering across boroughs. It’s better than romance. Until one night, the unspoken boundaries of their platonic relationship begin to blur.

Conclusion:-

At last, I would like to conclude by saying that there's nothing wrong with falling in love with your friend. Analyzing and confessing your emotions are also equally important. But before weaving anything further you shall hope for the best and if By God's Grace it's destined you will find your lover in your friend. And if not, you'll blessedly find your ‘The One’ someday or the other!

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