Don't Argue, Instead Do This:
Is your love life less "happily ever after" and more "daily disagreement disaster? Does that daily bickering in your relationship start to feel more constant than the joy of being in your partner's arms?
Well, if that's you then fear not friend as you are not alone, disagreements happen in every relationship but if those disagreements start happening way too soon and way too often then that's a problem right there!
But worry not as we will cut to the chase and offer you practical strategies to break the cycle of those constant fights with the cherry on the cake being that we will also offer practical advice that will help you build a peaceful relationship. So ditch the drama and get ready to reignite the spark in your relationship – with a healthy dose of laughter and a sprinkle of communication magic!
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The Art Of Conversation
Now I'm sure you don't want to feel like you are on a battlefield, every time you talk with your partner, right? But fights keep popping up and you are always ready to defend yourself, well that's where you'll see 'the power of communication' cause if you know how to voice your opinion in a way that sounds reasonable, then that'll be your secret weapon.
Without communication, there is no relationship. Without respect, there is no love. Without trust, there is no reason to continue
Communication allows you to truly connect with your partner, navigate fights with ease, and build a stronger bond. So here are some tips to level up your communication skills and become a pro at navigating disagreements with your partner.
Start your statements with "I"
No one likes being accused of something and when you start saying things like 'Because of you this happened' or 'How could you do that' then of course your partner will be defensive and they'll start saying things back that you might not appreciate.
So instead of accusatory statements that will put your partner on the defensive, switch to "I" statements that will focus on your feelings and experience. You can say things like 'I felt bad cause you did that'
Active Listening
With active listening your partner is less likely to feel frustrated cause they will feel that their words are going through you. But for that to happen you have to listen to not only the words that are coming out of your partner's mouth but also what they are REALLY trying to say!
Let me give you some more tips:
- Put your phone down to make them feel heard and also using your phone while someone's talking is disrespecting them.
- Give them your full attention: make eye contact and occasionally nod while they are talking.
- Summarize in your own words: When they are done talking, summarize whatever you understood, say it like 'So you are saying you...'
Validate their feelings
Even if you don't agree with your partner's viewpoint, you should acknowledge their feelings cause doing so makes them feel understood or heard. And validating their feelings also creates a safe space for them to talk about their feelings.
Taming The Emotional Tiger
Fights can bring that fiery emotional side in all of us. When our heart rate spikes, our voice gets louder, and we say bye-bye to our ability to rationally think about the situation. But let me tell you about the ways to manage that anger and frustration before it derails your conversation.
So when your fights starts heating up, your first step is to pause and stop this conversation before you both start talking about things you later regret. So take a break and come back later when both of you guys are a lot calmer.
Well all of us have those buttons, that when pushed put us in a strange frenzy, right? So knowing what triggers you can help a lot.
Once you identify those triggers you can talk to your partner about them and let them know what specific behavior sets you off.
When you start feeling the heat rise, don't let it boil instead practice relaxation techniques to de-escalate tension in the moment. Try Deep breathing exercises, Muscle relaxation, and visualizing yourself in a peaceful place.
By taking a time-out, knowing what triggers you, and using relaxation techniques, you can manage your anger and frustration during disagreements.
A calm conversation is always more productive than a heated argument.
Turn Disagreements Into Collaborative Efforts
Now let's ditch those boxing gloves and think about ways to turn those disagreements into collaborative efforts to save your relationship.
Disagreements are inevitable, but they don't have to be relationship deal-breakers
Instead of seeing those daily fights as a deal breaker, view them as opportunities to work together, solve problems, and build an even stronger bond.
Brainstorm solution together
Instead of trying to be a know-it-all, sit with your partner together and brainstorm ideas to reach a common ground, where both of your wishes are being respected.
Compromise
Neither of you is likely to get everything exactly the way you want. So be open to reaching a decision where you get something and lose something.
Celebrate small wins
If you are seeing progress or noticing fewer arguments then high-five each other cause in the end a win is a win.
Bring Happiness Back In Your Relationship
If there is constant bickering with your partner then your love life might look like it's stuck on repeat with the same old fight song. So let me give you some ideas to bring that love back into your relationship.
So, make your partner feel appreciated by saying thank you when they do something, give them compliments for no reason, spend quality time with them by scheduling date nights, or find some shared activities you guys could do together.
Vanshika Arya
Conclusion
Fights are a normal part of every relationship, but they don't have to be a constant source of stress. By implementing the communication tips and strategies we told you about, you can transform those daily fights into opportunities for growth and connection. Remember that a strong relationship is built on a foundation of open communication, empathy, and a willingness to work together.
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