Things to Say Before No-Contact!

Hitting the Snooze Button on Your Love Life!

They say silence speaks louder than words, but sometimes a few careful lines are sure to pave the way for a peaceful separation.

Let's face it- breakups are brutal and you might be hurting, confused, and probably angry. But amidst all the emotional drama, there's a chance to take control of the narrative and pave the way for a peaceful separation. It's the no-contact phase.

Although the no-contact period might sound harsh, it can be a powerful tool for both partners. Think of it as hitting the pause button on a malfunctioning machine. You need some time to analyze the problem, figure out if it's curable, and maybe even identify some new features you want in the future. No contact allows you to do just that– detach from the emotional rollercoaster and focus on yourself.

Well, no worries cause your Idyll is back with another banger blog where we'll assist you in finding the right words to ease the transition into a period of no-contact!

No Contact = The Breakup Vacation

Although ghosting might be all the rage these days, but let's be real, it's not cool, and when we are on the receiving end of the stick we'll hate it. The no-contact period is a more mature way to deal with the existing relationship problem.

There is no right answer Some folks might need a quick 3-day digital detox, while others might require a full-on emotional expedition. You should figure out what's right for you.

This no-contact period should not be taken lightly. It is usually the last resort after all the efforts to continue a peaceful relationship have been tried.

Operation Radio Silence

If you were not the one to initiate this no-contact period and are now wondering what to do then do take my advice to 'Eat a 5-star & Do nothing.'  Yes! Because neither do they want to talk to you nor do they want to see your face.

Don't React. Just Detach.

They initiated this no-contact period so that they could make good use of this alone time and think about whether they should be in this relationship or not.

Having said that, I get it that the no-contact period isn't exactly a walk in the park, and it is extra tough when you guys are glued to your phone. But think of this temporary detachment as a small sacrifice to pay for a healthy relationship in the future.

So, what is accepted from you is not to take any action to breach this no-contact period and to think about what you will do if they no longer want this relationship and how you would react to such a situation.

How To Initiate The No-Contact Ninja Vanish?

No Contact with No Guilt!

Answer me this: If they are not feeling guilty about how they treated and hurt you, why the heck should you care about taking a break for your mental peace and cutting them off? Listen, babe, you have the right to protect yourself from toxic people around you. Moreover, why should you feel guilty about prioritizing yourself?

Back to the question of how we should initiate:- After the breakup block their number, don't meet in person, and also block them on all social media apps.

If you are not considering breaking up and want to work on the relationship, communicate effectively to express that there is hope for the relationship.

Expressing Intentions

It would be best if you communicated your intentions as to why you want a break in the first place. Ghosting someone unexpectedly can be hurtful, and devastating, and it can take a toll on their mental health.

You don't need to write a novel, but a quick explanation shows respect and avoids leaving them hanging.  Something like,

It's short, sweet, and to the point.

Setting Boundaries

Do yourself a favor and set your boundaries. Don't expect others to know your boundaries. Let them know if you want updates on each other's lives or if you prefer not to get any updates on their life.

Operation: Me-Time!

Now that you've got your long-awaited break. Let's start with some much-needed self-care.

The first and most important is to know that the real challenge begins now:

Avoiding the emotional black hole that is your phone's camera roll.

Avoid going through your camera roll because you are bound to see some old pictures which will make you miss them more.

This letter should include reasons for taking a break from the person and how a break can save the relationship.

Keep track of things that keep you calm, and distracted and also help you feel relaxed. Make a list and do it daily or you could make a living list and keep on adding new things you did and enjoyed, it would be so fun to later look at that list.

Sitting on the bed constantly looking at either your phone or TV is not helping you, and doing so is only gonna make you feel more miserable and depressed. So it's time to change your surroundings and maybe you could re-decorate your room a little for a nice change, it might improve your mood.

Going on a solo trip sounds about right, it will help you heal and put the past behind you, or maybe a trip with all your friends sounds quite nice too.
Do new things and keep yourself busy. This will help you to think less about your ex and more about yourself.

Avoiding The Ex-pectations!!

Expectations can be a real buzzkill, especially during a no contact period. Here's the thing: there's no one-size-fits-all answer to what your ex might expect from you.  Their personality plays a huge role.

I know some people who initiated a no-contact phase and then got irritated and mad as to why their ex did not try to communicate. Then they think their ex doesn't like them and he is ok with breaking up because if the ex wanted them back then he should've tried communicating.

Many people think if their ex is trying to communicate in this no contact period, then the ex doesn't respect their decisions and is only thinking about themselves.

Remember the goal is to focus on YOURSELF, and not on your ex's reaction,

Don't let their action de-rail your self-care mission.

This no-contact negotiation is about setting boundaries and avoiding unnecessary drama.  Stay centered, prioritize your well-being, and remember – You deserve a clean break, not confusing!

Conclusion  

I understand that a no-contact phase can be difficult and emotional. However, it can also be a valuable opportunity to dedicate time to self-care and healing. To distract yourself from thinking about your ex all the time, go on a fun trip, change your hairstyle, and keep yourself busy with various activities.

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